150: Understanding the Roots of People-Pleasing with Amy Green Smith

In this conversation, Amy Greensmith discusses the concept of people-pleasing and its roots in our primitive defense mechanism. She explains that people-pleasing is not always nefarious and can be a way to stay safe. However, it becomes problematic when we sacrifice our own needs and self-worth to please others. We also discuss the impact of living authentically and prioritizing self-worth. The conversation highlights the importance of embodying all aspects of oneself and setting an example for the next generation.

“People-pleasing involves sacrificing ourselves to please others.”

00:00 Introduction

01:23 Understanding and Supporting Emotional Development

06:46 Managing Anger in Young Men

13:13 The Role of Mothers in Supporting Emotional Development

19:51 Reframing Anxiety and Developing Healthy Coping Mechanisms

25:30 Embracing Emotional Intelligence and Taking Responsibility

27:03 The Power of Deep Breathing for Emotional Well-being

32:02 Making Decisions for Oneself and Owning the Consequences

36:07 Trust and Autonomy in Supporting Young Men’s Transition into Adulthood

47:27 Facing Challenges and Accomplishing Tasks for Personal Growth

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